Original Version, MOO Conversation for

Queerness, Sexuality, Technology, and Writing: How Do Queers Write Ourselves When We Write in Cyberspace?

[log started Wed Jan 21, 2004]

 

Participants: Keith, Barclay (guest), Angela (guest), RandyW, Saffista, Jonathan (guest), and Jackie (guest)

 

Keith turns Keith's recorder on.

Keith says, "welcome to AcadianaMOO"

Keith says, "and thanks all for coming... the recorder is running and we're live from Acadiana!"

Keith says, "why don't folks introduce themselves since I don't know if everyone knows everyone else...."

Saffista is Samantha Blackmon, Purdue, Corntown, IN

Barclay (guest) is Barclay Barrios, Rutgers, New Brunswick, NJ

Saffista . o O ( Acadiana always makes me hum "Dirty Diana" )

RandyW says, "I'm Randy Woodland, University of Michigan-Dearborn."

Keith is Keith Dorwick, assistant professor at the U. of Louisiana at Lafayette...

Jonathan (guest) is Jonathan Alexander, University of Cincinnati

Keith laughs and then cuts THAT from the log with a great big pair of scissors

Angela (guest) thanks god, because then she doesn't have to do it...

Angela (guest) says, "though i'm at georgia southern, rural south representative next to

Keith..."

Keith says, "for the final version, I'll ask you all for formal bios but for now... "

Barclay (guest) says, "gotcha"

Keith says, "intros will do"

Keith says, "i'll watch for Jackie at the front door"

Keith says, "for the record"

Keith says, "jonathan, Angela and I are the editors of this piece"

Keith says, "and after we finish this conversation, I'll arrange it in order then angle and Jonathan will ask you all for annotations to expand on what happens"

Saffista nods

Keith says, "this means you don't have to worry about saying it all right now... you can add to the conversation later"

Barclay (guest) says, "phew"

Keith nods

Keith says, "ok first question: . We will begin by asking what your favorite queer site is or which queer site you see as most significant (and why) "

Barclay (guest) says, "umm are we going in order, or jumping in?"

Keith says, "and I guess as one of the authors of that question, I could see it meaning either personally or professionally, or both"

Jonathan (guest) says, "Jump in, Barclay."

Keith says, "jump in!"

Saffista says, "Interestingly enough my favorite/most signif site isn't exclusively queer does it still count?"

Barclay (guest) says, "My favorite site? Hrm. The problem I have with this question is that to answer it is to out my specific desires, which is something Id rather not do until Im tenured [g]. But with this hesitation, I guess I am at least willing to admit that my favorite queer sites have a lot to do with meeting people who share my particular configurations of queer desires. Im hoping that will be answer enough."

Barclay (guest) says, "As for the most significant queer site, I would actually have to choose something thats neither specifically queer nor actually a siteAmerica Online: it allows for multiple, stable online identities (allowing people to explore new queer identities and manage their outness online); it has chat rooms for all kinds of queers (allowing queers to find other queers); its instant messaging creates private conversation in public online spaces (allowing more private explorations of desires and interests); and its where I first started learning HTML. Plus, there was the GLBT area& what was it called? On Q?"

Barclay (guest) says, "chunked enough?"

Keith says, "yep"

Angela (guest) says, "

Saffista, it still counts, in my opinion..."

RandyW says, "I was going to say AOL, as well -- in part to watch the smoke come out of

Keith's ears."

Jonathan (guest) says, "I'm experiencing a little of what Barclay mentions about hesitating to name one's desire--even on the other side of the tenure line..."

Barclay (guest) nods

Saffista says, "ok, then I have to vote for Blackplanet.com or at least the queer spaces there. It seems that this is where every black queer person that I run across hangs out online"

Jonathan (guest) says, "But I will say that my favorite "queer sites"--whatever THAT means--are ones that have initially pushed my boundaries of sexuality..."

Jackie (guest) steps into the Southwestern Cafe.

Keith says, "hello, Jackie"

Saffista says, "BP fills a big void for most Q black folk out in the sticks where there are few black folk or out Q folk"

Barclay (guest) says, "what's interesting, then, Jonathan, is that the Web let's us be out online in ways that we may not be comfortable in everyone knowing"

Jonathan (guest) says, "...ones that have provoked me to reconsider what I, personally, find attractive, or am attracted to..."

Keith says, "could you introduce yourself; everyone else, I've given Jackie the first question already"

Jonathan (guest) says, "Indeed, Barclay."

Jackie (guest) says, "hello"

Jackie (guest) says, "Jackie Rhodes here"

Saffista waves to Jackie

Jonathan (guest) waves too...

Barclay (guest) says, "

Saffista, would you say then that the intersection of race and sexuality creates *particular* complications?"

Keith says, "for me the site of choice is certainly gay.com though it drives me crazy in a lot of ways... it's SUCH a commercial site"

Saffista [to Barclay (guest)]: most definitely

Jackie (guest) says, "I've been trying to figure out what might be the MOST significant queer site for me...."

Saffista says, "especially when the are geographical issues as well"

Barclay (guest) says, "gay.com IS a biggie, yes -- but for many of the same reasons I would say AOL is"

Jackie (guest) says, "As I was thinking about it, though, I realized that a lot of my queer space/experience online has been centered in spaces like this one."

Keith says, "yes and it's been a lifesave"

Keith says, "r even"

Jackie (guest) pokes Jonathan

Barclay (guest) says, "like IRC, too, Jackie?"

RandyW says, "I think the significance of AOL was (and perhaps no longer is) 1) the ways in made all parts of the Internet (including the queer parts) available to almost anyone (without special tools and/or costumes)"

Keith says, "I grew up in Chicago, and worked there for many years... and then moved to a relatively small university town in Louisiana" [ 6:52 pm ]

Barclay (guest) says, "though costumes can come in handy, Randy"

Barclay (guest) smiles

Keith says, "and felt VERY isolated...."

Jackie (guest) says, "Barclay, yes, IRC and MOOs--interactive spaces with pick-your-own identity "

RandyW says, "and 2) the way in which LGBT folk "queered" AOL and its standard array of communicative avenues"

Barclay (guest) has a history with IRC, too

Saffista [to Jackie (guest)]: or developing your own identity

Jonathan (guest) says, "Oddly enough, speaking of issues of isolation and connectivity, even in a large community of queers, I'm surprised at how much I want to communicate with queers specifically in ONLINE spaces..."

Keith says, "so without it, I don't know how I would have survived a distance relationship and all that good stuff"

Barclay (guest) says, "Jonathan, NYC seems to be at the front of that shock wave -- bars are dying even in the big city because queers meet each other online"

Jackie (guest) says, "I remember my first interactive online experience was a queer one--on AOL of all places."

Saffista wonders how much what she does online now extends from exploration done before one actually comes out (exploration online that is)

Keith [to Jonathan (guest)]: I agree: it's more important for me to be online then to go out to the bars. I find the interactions more interesting..

Angela (guest) says, "what do you mean,

Saffista?"

Barclay (guest) wonders how young the next generation of queers will be

Keith says, "five?"

Barclay (guest) wonders what HE would have done with the Web at his disposal while a teen

Saffista [to Angela (guest)]: before I came out I built online community to prepare myself for RL

Jonathan (guest) says, "yes, yes, more than this, tho'...I think that, for me, the online space takes away some of the body consciousness that seems to permeate gay MALE culture and interaction..."

Saffista says, "now that I am out I still depend on VR for community now that I am in the sticks"

Barclay (guest) says, "depends on WHICH gay male culture, of course"

Jonathan (guest) says, "of course..."

Barclay (guest) says, "same is true even without the sticks,

Saffista"

Angela (guest) says, "so the web was part of the coming out process for you?"

Saffista smiles at Barclay

Keith says, "oh yes: in bars, for instance, older guys can't really talk to younger guys until they know them and they can't know till they talk to them. The barriers are much lower here (and by here I mean online)."

Barclay (guest) smiles back

Jackie (guest) says, "yes....although it's a body consciousness that permeates all sorts of cultures; and face it, hey, there are acrobatics you can do here that you'd never do in RL"

RandyW agrees with Barclay, remembering a friend's printed comment (in WIRED) that in MOO-space, only the best writers get laid.

Saffista [to Angela (guest)]: yep. It gave me a space to contemplate my feelings

Barclay (guest) says, "and it's easier to have a conversation without loud bar music"

Jonathan (guest) says, "the pleasures of the text..."

Keith says, "same with race which is not a huge issue in southwestern Louisiana, but it's still a bigger issue (or at least differently configured) than it was back in Chicago"

Jackie (guest) says, "In 1995, I'd just gotten my new Mac Performa 630 and aol.com service...."

Barclay (guest) says, "just so

RandyW -- in part I like meeting people online because I am master of the element, master of text"

Angela (guest) says, "I wonder how much our sense of queer locations on-line has to do with when we came out...(or when we will come out)"

Saffista [to Angela (guest)]: good question

Jonathan (guest) says, "Interesting, Anglea..."

Jackie (guest) says, "I discovered the lesbian chatrooms on aol. I was blown away--it was my first moment of AHA! "

Barclay (guest) came out pre-Web, but just barely

Jonathan (guest) says, "Me too..."

Keith says, "yes and people who don't well in cyberspace often don't do well because they so fail at its rhetoric"

Saffista [to Jackie (guest)]: I discovered them on Prodigy back in the days of BBs and chatrooms

Jackie (guest) says, "AHA on the internet, that is--like oh, wow, I see what the big deal might be..."

RandyW came out pre-PC.

Barclay (guest) says, "so THAT'S why composition matters -- it gets you laid"

Barclay (guest) smiles

Saffista laughs

Keith is older than most of you, he thinks, so he was out way before the web, but the web has certainly changed HOW I am out

Jackie (guest) came out in 1984....

Barclay (guest) says, "1988ish"

Keith laughs at Barclay's line

Keith says, "ready for this? 1975"

Saffista says, "the early 90s"

Barclay (guest) says, "whoa Daddy!"

Jonathan (guest) says, "1989"

Keith says, "you bet, Boy"

Barclay (guest) says, "I was 5"

Barclay (guest) laughs

Saffista says, "I was 6"

Jackie (guest) says, "I was 18"

Keith glares

Saffista smiles at

Keith

Keith says, "oh shush, y'awl..."

Angela (guest) says, "and aging becomes an issue for conversation..."

Barclay (guest) says, "how so Angela?"

Jonathan (guest) says, "It's curious that, of all the things to talk about, we return to this seemingly most "basic" question of identity..."

Keith says, "I think it's way easier for gueers to negoitate aging in cyberspace than in any other space."

Jackie (guest) says, "Age? I think, actually, that it's a particularly queer question of identity...not just age, but 'when did you come out'"

Angela (guest) says, "well it seems our queer experiences on line may be inflected through many age related experiences"

Keith says, "it's not so readily availalbe as information with which we can discriminate against one another."

Barclay (guest) says, "though again,

Keith, that depends on WHICH community -- some segments of the gay male culture value and venerate age (and experience)"

Jackie (guest) says, "Or 'how did you come out...' Another trope; the narrative of queer identity"

Jonathan (guest) says, "yes"

Barclay (guest) says, "good point Jackie"

Saffista [to Jackie (guest)]: I think the how question gets dealt with a lot in RL too

Keith says, "right, and Daddy/Boy allows that seepage to occur; in fact, that set of roles allows aging to be not only ok, but in fact, hot."

Jackie (guest) says, "I think that, for me, points to a particular way in which online spaces and queer identities intersect..."

Jonathan (guest) says, "Yes, let's go there, Jackie."

Saffista says, "My coming out was much less personal, prolly because of my online experience"

Jackie (guest) says, "For me, identity has always been--at least as the 'coming out' story goes--a matter of narrative movement."

Barclay (guest) says, "and the online world is a narrative world"

Saffista nods

RandyW says, "or many narrative worlds."

Keith says, "that allows people to 'practice' different roles"

Jackie (guest) says, "Oh, I dunno."

Saffista says, "mine was so driven by narrative that I told my mom with a book :-)"

Jackie (guest) says, "I've been a practicing lesbian for a while..."

Keith says, "i know many of my students, for instance, came out online well before they came out rl"

Barclay (guest) laughs

Jackie (guest) says, "Practice makes perfect"

Saffista laughs

Barclay (guest) says, "I think that will be increasingly true,

Keith"

Jonathan (guest) says, "But what's perfection?"

Keith says, "yes, and HIV works that way too" [ 7:02 pm ]

Keith came out as poz first online well before he came out as poz to anyone rl except close friends, partner and family.

Keith wonders if all of this leads to our second question:

Jonathan (guest) says, "In terms of narrating my sexuality/sexual identity vis-a-vis the Internet, I'm reminded of some powerful trips to homophobic sites..."

Barclay (guest) says, "good point, I imagine that's multiply true -- some, for example, may come out as kinky or as bears online first"

Keith says, " Can you imagine being queer without technologyor queer without the internet? "

Jackie (guest) says, "For me, the lesbian identity is not necessarily a cyber-intensive one, but the queer identity might be"

Jackie (guest) says, "Hmmmmm, I'm not sure if I even understood myself on that last one."

Keith [to Jackie (guest)]: that's interesting. can you expand on that?

RandyW says, "I'm reminded of conversations with gay men of an earlier generation who said that WE had it so much easier because there were bars out in the open, student gay groups, etc. In one way, online spaces can be seen as an extension of those gueer-identified spaces."

Keith says, "you might have to save it for an annotation!"

Jonathan (guest) says, "Yes,

RandyW..."

Barclay (guest) says, "Of course& because I was. But the fact that we can even ask this question reminds me of a talk by Gayle Rubin that I attended recently. Rubin was discussing geologies of queer studies, and she used the metaphor of geology to suggest that new queer knowledges are built on top of old ones, like geological strata."

Barclay (guest) says, "which is just what Randy is talking about, on some level"

Jackie (guest) says, "Well, if I followed my logic, and I'm not sure I can, but 'lesbian' seems fraught with a different politic/rhetoric than queer"

Saffista says, "While I think I can imagine being queer without the internet, I don't know how well I can imagine coming out without it"

Keith can remember what it was like -- I was out years before I started doing bulleting boards and IRC

Jackie (guest) says, "In that 'lesbian' draws more directly on Spivak's strategic essentialism, and perhaps needs a certain solidity of I AM "

RandyW nods enthusiastically, will annotate later a book about gay life in the South that talks about the role of highways and cars in rural Mississippi.

Jackie (guest) says, "And queer does not."

Barclay (guest) says, "So, before chat rooms, there were bars. Before homepages and emails, there were personal ads and letters. Before the gif, there was the actual photograph. Before the newsgroup, there was the club. Before porn sites, there were magazines and videos. What we do online may feel (may even be) new, but it is built on what came before. And so Im reminded too of Neil Bartletts _Who Was That Man?_ , Tzvetan Todorovs The Origin of Genres, and Denis Barons From Pencils to Pixels, all of which to some degree meditate on the linkages between what is and what came before."

Saffista [to Jackie (guest)]: yes!

Saffista says, "Perhaps it is that the Internet helped me bring it into being by claiming it"

RandyW says, "and before Gay.com -- there were M4M rooms on AOL -- I've always had a theory that M4M started as code to avoid AOL's content controls -- or is it just telgraphic language?"

Keith [to Barclay (guest)]: all that's true of course, but does this allow us more scope than other gathering places did? I know as a rural queer (it's SO strange for me to embrace that but I realized it was so the first time I agreed to drive an hour to meet a friend for lunch without thinking of that as unusual) and without cyberspace my life would be much less rich...

Jackie (guest) says, "I think that the bar-->chatroom movement is interesting, as are the other movements Barclay refers to"

Barclay (guest) says, "I've always wondered, Randy, but now it circulates beyond AOL"

RandyW has a similar theory about "boi"

Angela (guest) says, "so Jackie, is the lesbian identity the lived in real life identity?"

Angela (guest) says, "and the queer identity lived on the screen?"

Jackie (guest) says, "But I'm always reminded of the weird and different ways gay men and lesbians structure their bars"

Barclay (guest) agrees with Randy

Barclay (guest) says, "pig, too"

Keith thinks it might have to do with the helping professions and sociologists and MSM (men who have sex with men), thus avoiding the label 'gay'

Jackie (guest) shudders at the memory of all those lesbians slow-dancing to Melissa Etheridge.

RandyW says, "their bars, their relationships, all kinds of social groupings."

Keith laughs

Keith [to Barclay (guest)]: you mean all those are codes that get past parental controls?

Jackie (guest) says, "Actually, I think that queer life online helped me expand my own sense of sexuality"

Saffista like Melissa Etheridge, still

Jonathan (guest) says, "I'm intrigued by Angela's question.... I wonder: am I more queer on the screen than IRL?"

RandyW shudders at the memory of waiting for the one slow dance they played at 1:50 am, just before the bar closed.

Jonathan (guest) says, "Jackie--that's just what I was saying before you entered..."

Keith says, "if so, that's interesting but I think it goes beyond that; those positive labels always name something that is distressing to the gay community and refigure them in such as way as to be acceptable"

Jackie (guest) says, "I more readily play with queer theory now, although I identify much more--for political reasons--as lesbian"

Jonathan (guest) says, "There's a way in which I have a very run-of-the-mill GAY life..."

Saffista . o O ( Nommo )

Barclay (guest) has disconnected.

Keith sways to Last Dance, Last Chance for Love...

Jackie (guest) nods at Jonathan

Barclay (guest) has connected. The disconnected

Barclay (guest) decides he's outstayed his welcome and goes home.

Jonathan (guest) says, "...and then online I've found a variety of things that have turned my head, as it were, ..."

Keith will edit that disappearance out

Jackie (guest) says, "Yes, I'm a very much more exciting queer online than a lesbian in rl"

Jonathan (guest) says, "...and that I've just HAD to try IRL..."

Keith is the same way as a gay man

Jonathan (guest) says, "...and I'm not sure I ever would've run into those things IRL..."

Jackie (guest) says, "I'm much more queer online"

Saffista [to Jackie (guest)]: why do you think that is?

Jackie (guest) says, "The play of language and identity"

Jackie (guest) says, "The sense of possibility, of no bounds"

Jonathan (guest) says, "the possiblity of imagination..."

Saffista wonders if a sense of freedom might also contribute to that (for herself)

Jackie (guest) says, "I think that online queerness pushes you to push; to follow your desires to (il)logical conclusions"

Saffista says, "as my freshman writers say about MOOs, no reprecussions"

Jonathan (guest) says, "that's not true..."

RandyW says, "I think part of this labeling is this wonderful creative, self-expression that those of us in this room celebrate. But another part is the efficiency of the information age. People are looking for very specific kinds of information about potential sexual partners online -- info that's been relatively unavaible IRL."

Jackie (guest) says, "I'm more of a flirt online; I'm more physical, believe it or not."

Barclay (guest) steps into the Southwestern Cafe.

Jackie (guest) says, "I'm much more in my head in RL than online"

Keith [to Saffista]: but there ARE reprecussions

Saffista says, "what;s not true Jonathan>?"

Angela (guest) says, "hm...and so the conservative lesbian encounters her queer self?"

Keith says, "you know how it goes when things get said that ought not to be said"

Jonathan (guest) says, "I don't think these are spaces w/o repercussions..."

Saffista [to Keith]: true, but at times it feels as if there are none

Barclay (guest) has disconnected.

Saffista agrees

Barclay (guest) has connected.

Jonathan (guest) says, "yes, and I wonder about that...is that what's queer?"

Jackie (guest) says, "So in some ways, I'd say that online space--especially MOO/IRC space--embodies people" The disconnected

Barclay (guest) decides he's outstayed his welcome and goes home.

Keith says, "it's exactly those people who either do well or awfully though"

Jackie (guest) says, "Well, I'd never describe myself as CONSERVATIVE really..."

Keith says, "that's odd! I'd agree about MOO, but NEVER about IRC"

Angela (guest) says, "I'm sorry, i can't remember the word you used above..."

Keith says, "it feels the most disembodied space of all" [ 7:13 pm ]

Jonathan (guest) says, "But to me, it's EXTREMELY embodied..."

Angela (guest) says, "take back conservative..." guest steps into the Southwestern Cafe. guest says, "argh!!"

Jonathan (guest) says, "...well, maybe not EXTREMELY..."

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Jackie (guest) says, "Yes, I'm a very much more exciting queer online than a lesbian in rl"

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Jackie (guest) says, "My experience with IRC has been with people I know in RL, so that changes it a bit"

Keith says, "that would" guest is much more queer online than otherwise guest changes his name to

Barclay (guest).

Jackie (guest) says, "Ah, not CONSERVATIVE, Angela, just unexciting."

Jackie (guest) )

Jackie (guest) smiles

Saffista says, "For me it has a lot to do with how connected I feel to that community"

Keith says, "whereas for me, it's an extension of the technology"

Saffista says, "Is it someplace where I know and am known, or just someplace I am visiting"

Keith says, "moo makes me most embodied of all"

Keith catches a glimpse of himself in a mirror and says, not bad, daddio...

Barclay (guest) giggles

Saffista [to Keith]: this is true of MOOs because you have a "body"

Jackie (guest) says, "In my MOO life, I have better clothes..."

Saffista says, "and you verb :-)"

Keith nods excitedly

Jackie (guest) pokes Jonathan

Saffista verbs well

Barclay (guest) says, "do profiles construct bodies online?"

RandyW says, "our LGBT campus student group has begun holding online meetings (replacing some IRL meetings) to accomodate members who are not out enought to attend a RL meeting."

Keith says, "pictures help"

Saffista nods

Jackie (guest) says, "Do they have to be real pictures"

Jonathan (guest) compliments Jackie on her attire tonight...

Keith [to RandyW]: that's interesting, do they like it?

Jackie (guest) says, "You like the top hat?"

Keith [to Jackie (guest)]: of course not unless you intend to meet

Keith says, "then they HAVE to be!"

Jonathan (guest) says, "I like the jockstrap, actually..."

Jackie (guest) says, "Yes, I'm the Gender Wrangler tonight"

Keith laughs at the idea of Jackie in a top hat and a jockstrap

Barclay (guest) nods

Barclay (guest) is experiencing serious lag

Saffista interesting picture there

Saffista says, "opps"

Keith thinks another question may help

Jonathan (guest) is sorry Barclay is having technical difficulties...

Keith says, " We don't automatically assume that technology is queer...but we know that we've attempted to use technology for queer purposes. What are those purposes? What are those rhetorical events? What are those compositional imaginings? Would we mark them as successful queer moments? "

Keith is too

Jonathan (guest) says, "Ever show your students godhatesfags in the classroom?"

Jackie (guest) says, "Well, most obviously, the community building for queer folk out in the sticks. I lived in Mississippi--I remember!"

Keith says, "I'm finding myself increasingly interested in online journals/blogs/spaces for queers"

RandyW says, "they've just started this semester,

Keith. I'll let you know. The group has an interest cyberhistory -- during a fallow period when a lot of the active members had graduated, the group was little more than a web message board for several years. It has now embodied itself again."

Barclay (guest) says, "i've been working on pride flags"

Barclay (guest) says, ". Im thinking of one kind of rhetorical event/compositional imagining that Id argue is pretty uniquely queer: the pride flag. Theyve really exploded online, and each time I think Ive seen them all I run across a new one. Its a kind of composition that seems to rely heavily on technology because its easier to make a flag graphically than fabrically and because its easier to disseminate that flag electronically than materially."

Keith [to Jonathan (guest)]: I did that just yesterday. I may have solved the class size problem with that site.

Saffista laughs at

Keith

Keith says, "they were, thank God, appalled"

RandyW says, "and so much more cost-effective than flying Phelps in,

Keith!"

Jonathan (guest) says, "but would they be appalled if you took them to a radical fairie site, K-boy?"

Keith reminds everyone that due to the school board issue, he WAS here

Saffista says, "This last question takes me back to my earlier response about VL helping with the coming out, affecting it in a very real way and then later becoming (once again) almost my sole source of gay community."

Jackie (guest) says, "I'm wondering...when we talk about technology and queer issues, do we JUST mean online/internet technologies?"

RandyW says, "Oh, I didn't realize that,

Keith"

Keith [to Jonathan (guest)]: I think that would be more appalling to them. It's ok to hate Phelps, but a radical site like that would be a space they wouldn't know how to deal with

Keith says, "yep, he blessed us with his presence."

Jonathan (guest) says, "Jackie, of course, technology has been helping us queer sexuality for quite some time...like the birth control pill!"

Jackie (guest) says, "Because I'm thinking of my strange play with Photoshop--Jonathan's seen some of this--and it's led to some of my most queer moments"

Keith says, "it's so clearly ok/not ok for them.."

RandyW ponders Jackie's question.

Keith says, "and a very very queer site, especially when I teach it, is barbie.com"

Angela (guest) says, "how would you define a queer moment?"

Keith [to Jonathan (guest)]: telephones too

Barclay (guest) says, "good point

Keith"

Jackie (guest) says, "I posted a picture of myself on my office door. It was my head on a semi-nude male body"

Jonathan (guest) says, "queer moment: when your sense of your own possibilities for intimacy are stretched beyond the hetero-normative imperative..."

Jackie (guest) says, "Actually, he was just shirtless--but he had a big old belt bucklt"

Jackie (guest) says, "Buckle, that is."

Jonathan (guest) says, "it was hot!"

Keith [to Angela (guest)]: for me, the queer moment is when a queer takes a text that may or may not itself be overtly queer and read it in a way that breaks beyond complusory heterosexuality. Any site can be queer.

Jackie (guest) says, "What was interesting is that it REALLY freaked some people out"

RandyW says, "the point of this book which i can't remebmer is that the technology of the car (and the road) affected gay male social/sexual connections in Mississippi."

Jonathan (guest) says, "because it looked so real..."

Barclay (guest) says, "have people scene Obscene Interiors? It does just that kind of work?"

Jackie (guest) says, "The combination of intimacy--we know Jackie's face--and distance--that's not her body"

Keith [to Jackie (guest)]: things that blur boundaries are always dangerous

Jackie (guest) says, "Desire--that body is HOT--tempered by BUT WAIT, that's not Jackie"

Keith says, "and male and female... probably particularly dangerous in a lesbian, I would guess"

Jonathan (guest) says, "but people who fool around with technology, particularly communications technologies, have been doing that for some time..."

Jackie (guest) says, "Or is it hers? Do I feel attracted/disturbed by my attraction/disturbance?"

Keith [to Jonathan (guest)]: what looked so real?

Keith lost track for a bit

Barclay (guest) knows the feeling

Barclay (guest) laughs

RandyW says, "Yes, Jonathan -- I'm thinking off all the Tolkien/techno-g eek connections going back years and years."

Keith [to Jackie (guest)]: and especially do I feel especially interested in the tensions between the two halves of the picture [ 7:23 pm ]

Jackie (guest) says, "And I -don't- think it would have been nearly so disturbing to people if I'd pasted my head on a female body; but there's the notion of the lesbian as male/female/neither/all"

Jackie (guest) says, "Queer, in other words."

Keith has pictures of him in halk drag from Halloween: he was Fairy God Daddy

Jonathan (guest) says, "Tres trans..."

Jackie (guest) says, "So to pat myself on the cyber back, it felt like I was contributing to little frissons of queer desire in the office..."

Keith says, "half even"

Barclay (guest) pats Jackie's back

Keith says, "big wings, a pink wand, a tiara and a leather jacket, blue jeans and big ol boots"

Barclay (guest) says, "what kind of boots?"

Barclay (guest) smiles

Jonathan (guest) says, "Jackie's comments link back to an earlier comment about the technology allowing us all the more effectively to create sites of such disruption..."

Keith says, "brown work boots"

Barclay (guest) says, "good enough"

Jonathan (guest) says, "...in which we disrupt our OWN desires..."

Jackie (guest) says, "So I guess what I'd say is that there's a certain ease with technology--not just technology itself--that lends itself to play, and perhaps particularly queer play"

Keith says, "ah that's right, that's right"

Barclay (guest) says, "'ease' after the learning curve"

Keith says, "it's queer to manipulate space in this way"

Keith says, "which leads to the final question:"

Keith says, " What, if anything, has cyberspace done to our conception of writing, of writing queerly including the kinds of writing we do for the World Wide Web?"

Jonathan (guest) says, "is there something fundamentally 'queer' about the technologies...their ability to put us in touch with networks of people..."

RandyW is reminded of all the seemingly queer referents in LambdaMOO, the "mother of all MOOs"

Keith [to RandyW]: it's been years since I've been there.. what referents?

Jackie (guest) says, "Well, maybe I'm just speaking as a closet 18th century sort, but I think it's brought back the notion of wit"

Keith nods

Barclay (guest) says, "hence Obscene Interiors -- very queer kind of writing"

Keith says, "I think my ability to joke has really helped my status in the gay community here in lafayette"

Jackie (guest) says, "Wit as the marker of strength, of language as something manipulable and powerful, a way of claiming space that may not be available to us in RL"

RandyW says, "well, the name for one. New guests enter by coming out of a closet. And there's some Wizard of Oz, as well. But as I understand it, the creator said there was not explicity queer agenda."

Keith says, "i mean, an older gay guy with hiv? I should be invisible! Being the faculty advisor to the student LGBT group in a university town helps too of course"

Keith always wondered about coming out of the closet in Lambda

Saffista has reconnected.

Angela (guest) says, "hi

Saffista, welcome back..."

Keith says, "wb,

Saffista"

Barclay (guest) says, "reHi"

Saffista says, "thanks"

Jackie (guest) says, "And I realize that maybe this is a MOO cliche, but what about gender play?"

Barclay (guest) says, "what about it?"

Keith remembers a night at connections in which we all gender shifted.

Jackie (guest) says, "I can be a man? A woman? Well, no, but....I can pick pronouns"

RandyW says, "and while there was a significant gay presence there,

Keith, is was not the dominant community "

Keith [to RandyW]: it sure wasn't!

Barclay (guest) says, "that's true of chatrooms, too, yes Jackie?"

Jonathan (guest) says, "it's true of Webpages!"

RandyW says, "How many genders do you want, Jackie? We've got tons!"

Keith says, "and not just gender; chat allows one to be anyone.."

Jackie (guest) says, "So in some ways, since we're aware that the play is going on, that a SHE may not be an "embodied" she, but"

Saffista says, "it gives you the opportunity to experiment, to explore"

Jackie (guest) says, "many different genders...."

Saffista is big on exploration

----------------------------------Keith ------------------------------- ---

Available genders: male, female, Spivak, either, splat, none, or royal

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Saffista smiles

Jonathan (guest) says, "...that's the disruption of desire..."

Jackie (guest) says, "Such an easy way to show the explosion of gender"

Jackie (guest) says, "pow"

Barclay (guest) nods

Jonathan (guest) says, "I can talk dirty to someone, hope it's a man, but feel all the more frisson b/c it might not be..."

Keith knows a guy who tested being HIV+ by coming out as HIV+ in chatrooms first even though he wasn't

Jackie (guest) says, "yes, that was ME the other night, you bad boy"

Barclay (guest) say, "but I usually assume the men I chat with online are, indeed, men -- there are textual clues"

Keith says, "then bug-chased till he went poz"

Keith says, "he said he wanted to be sure he could deal with the social realities of being HIV-poz first by trying it out online."

Keith says, "that's an extreme case..."

Barclay (guest) say, "whoa"

Jonathan (guest) says, "how much do we project into those textual clues, Barclay?"

Keith says, "but it's true"

RandyW had a multi-year friendship with someone online -- and to this day is unsure of the person's gender.

Jonathan (guest) says, "Do tell!"

Barclay (guest) say, "good question, Jonathan -- I'm not sure"

Jackie (guest) says, "I'm not sure if I ever learned any social realities from time online--it's so different out here. :)"

Keith also knows a set of twins here in laf who went transgender online first and are now both getting ready for sex changes operations

Keith says, "in rl"

Jackie (guest) says, "I'm different online; I react differently; I shape others' reactions differently than I might in RL--so hard to tell."

Saffista [to Jackie (guest)]: that's true, but it can make you feel more secure knowing the possibilities.

RandyW didn't know Lafayette was such a hotbed of sexual experimentation. "People used to just go to the Quarter."

Keith says, "oh yes, it's the long history of drag here"

Barclay (guest) laughs and remembers the Quarter

Barclay (guest) say, "a costume culture"

Keith says, "i am told by some life long queers here that they remember a tradition in which drag queens gave up drag for Lent and grew beards"

Barclay (guest) believes it [ 7:33 pm ]

Keith says, "then cut the beards off for Easter and went back to dresses..."

RandyW is speechless with delight.

Keith says, "it's very much a costume culture here... one of the two times in my life I've done drag was here"

Keith says, "cause I figured, hey, who would possibly mind?"

Barclay (guest) say, "it was no big deal to do it in N.O. -- and that was gendered drag or leather drag -- it was all drag"

RandyW passes out costumes.

Keith says, "but now everyone practices all this stuff online first!"

Jackie (guest) grows a beard

Jonathan (guest) shaves his legs

Keith puts on a midnight blue cocktail dress and pumps..

Barclay (guest) keeps all his body hair

----------------------------------Keith ------------------------------- ---

@gender female Gender set to "female". Your pronouns: she, her, her, hers, herself, She, Her, Her, Hers, Herself

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Keith says, "there!"

Barclay (guest) say, "you go girl!"

Jonathan (guest) shaves Barclay's body hair

Keith says, "in the real world that would take months!"

Barclay (guest) say, "Jonathan will pay for that"

Barclay (guest) smiles evilly

Keith says, "well, it's been an hour"

Jackie (guest) pastes Jonathan's hair on as a big handlebar mustache

Saffista laughs

Keith says, "and we're moving towards Mardi Gras!"

Jonathan (guest) is delighted...at the thought of the handlebar mustache...and possible future punishment

Barclay (guest) say, "Laissez les bon temps roulez"

Keith laughs

Keith says, "you got that right!!"

Barclay (guest) is equally delighted

Keith says, "unless there are further questions.... it's been great!!!"

Barclay (guest) say, "aye, that it has"

Jonathan (guest) says, "what's next, K-boy?"

Jackie (guest) says, "much fun"

Barclay (guest) say, "how about turning that damned recorder off?"

Keith says, "next I put this into a semblance of order... including, I think, the play"

Keith says, "ok!"

Keith says, "randy, if you want you can get a transcrpit by typing ask recorder for text"

Jackie (guest) says, "Make sure you get my mustache right"

Keith says, "I will!"

Keith says, "let me know when you will"

Keith says, "I'll send a raw transcript to everyone tomorrow morning... and an ordered transcript in a few days"

Barclay (guest) say, "good deal"

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